Don’t Fixate on Issues

Life is filled with challenges to overcome and potentially problematic people and situations.

It can feel damn near impossible to focus knowing there’s issues loaming over your head.

This is doubly so if you have anxiety.

I completely get it, trust me.

But it is incredibly unwise to fixate on these issues.

Now, you might be thinking, “Ryan, if I don’t deal with my problems they will never get resolved,”

And yes, of course, that’s true.

I’m not saying avoid your problems or run away from them.

Certainly not.

I’m saying don’t fixate on them.

And the reason is simple:

When you fixate on your issues, they become more emotionally overwhelming.

The most straightforward example is if you have debt.

Let’s say you owe $200,000, which is an overwhelming thought just to ponder.

But let’s say you are consumed by anxiety knowing you owe that money.

How am I going to pay for it?

What am I going to do?

Where do I even start?

God, help me!!

While it’s understandable to feel this way in the face of so much debt, by allowing it to consume your thought-process, you won’t be able to clearly think of the solution.

That is, by being anxious, you won’t be able to focus on what could potentially help solve your problem.

Panic leads to more panic.

Whereas,

Calm leads to more calm.

Read that again and really think about it!

Of course, ignoring a problem completely is equally unwise, and will cause the problem to get worse.

But fixating on the problem can be just as detrimental.

Instead, accept your issues for what they are, and continue focusing on your growth and success!

DM me if you have any questions

-Ryan, Persona Coach

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